Allow me to introduce myself...

I think the name Scatterbrain Mommy fits me to a T. That is me in a nutshell. I will start one thing, change gears to another and then go off onto another project. Sometimes my head is just all over the place.
I have a beautiful little boy who keeps me on my toes 24/7. He truly is a joy to be with (99% of the time). I have the pleasure of staying home with him and love every minute of it.
I will say this a million times, I love my family and don't know what I would do without them. But, man they can make my blood boil. Not just my in-laws but my regular family too.
This blog will be a great outlet for me. When I have things on my mind, I like to get them out in the open, but don't have an avenue to do so.
Enjoy this bumpy road we will all take together!

phone call fun.... NOT

So R called his parents last night. They informed us that they are planning on coming down next weekend... they thought about coming this weekend, but figured we may have plans. They told us they really wanted to come for our anniversary, but didn't want to "impose".... yeah well since we aren't going to be here for that Friday that won't quite work anyway.

Then my mother-in-law (m-i-l) says... so are you going to find time to come down here this summer. R very coolly said... nope we aren't visiting ever. We have told them many times that we are working on trying to find a time that we could visit over the summer. Why is it that they can tell us with a week's notice and we have to make our plans a month or more ahead of time? When we told them the dates we are planning on going down, my m-i-l said "you made my month". They then proceeded to tell us again that they plan to teach the boys to swim that weekend... yeah it really ends up being one day that we are there because it's a 3.5 hr drive so Fri and Sun are spent in the car... hellooooo you can't teach someone to swim in a day.

They then told us that they are coming up early on Friday. If R isn't home when they get here, they think they are going to send me out for the afternoon... yeah ... ummmm NOOOO! Even R says no way! So I looked at him and said... so you are taking a half day on that Friday right??

I am so not looking forward to their visit, but I'm dreading the visit down there even more... so much for a fun and relaxing summer!

Not Me Monday

I figure Not Me! Monday, a blog carnival created by McMomma, is perfect for this blog. What is better than complaining about your family in the format of saying it would never happen? Be sure to pop over to My Charming Kids and check out McMomma and all the other great Not Me! Monday posts.

1. I did NOT avoid cleaning my house even though I was having out of town relatives over for a visit on Friday.

2. I would NEVER wish that said out of town relatives were not coming over because well I could care less if I saw them

3. I DIDN'T botch the brownies I was making to serve them because I was leaving to go out to lunch with my hubby.

4. I would NEVER salvage said brownies by making them into a trifle.

5. I did NOT eat the rest of said trifle today after eating salad for lunch

6. I would NEVER get ticked off at my grandmother for feeding C (my 1 year old) some of the chocolate pudding from the trifle AFTER I had given him some and he spit it out

7. I would NOT also give it to my son B (2.5 yrs) and watch him spit it out in his hand too

8. I did NOT feed my family leftover pizza for dinner on Sunday after just having pizza on Friday (yep with the relatives... I would never be so lazy as to serve guests pizza)

9. I did NOT create this blog as a place for me to complain about my relatives without them reading about it

10. I did NOT create the OMG stories as a place for the rest of you to complain about yours too (read the side bar if you're interested)

11. I am NOT hoping that posting on NMM will bring more traffic to my little blog here

12. I'm NOT glad that things are going a bit smoother in McMomma's life so she can have NMM again.

13. I'm NOT going to go visit some of the other NMM blogs to see whatelse everyone is not doing.

She did what?

Gosh, what does one do when a friend/family member is walking into a reeeealy bad decision? I guess nothing huh? Worst part is she knows its bad but is doing it anyways and when it all falls apart, she'll expect to be rescused, like some deliberate damsel in distress. You see, one of my SILs is going to be marry the father of her baby. The same worthless guy who has cheated on her CONSISTANTLY, who put her out on the side of a TX highway at midnight WHILE she was pregnant cuz he got mad at her for telling him to slow down (oh he was driving drunk too), who has never bought the child anything, same guy who gave her a dreadful disease-the kind that never goes away, who has disrespected everyone in her family, who joined the military and refused to claim his daughter so she could get medical benefits, who she has tried to move in with before and it lasted a whole 3 days before he kicked her and his kid out....shall I go on? I could. And after all the abuse and neglect shes actually going to marry him and move to TN. Seems just like a few weeks ago she was calling me all upset cuz he got caught cheating again. How am I supposed to react? Its a joke. If I congratulate it, its like I am condoning it. If I say nothing or how I feel, then I am a "hater". I just don't get it....

Aloha Friday (week 2)

Thanks to Kailani at An Island Life for starting this fun for Friday. Please be sure to head over to her blog to say hello and sign the Mr. Linky there if you are participating.

In Hawaii, Aloha Friday is the day that we take it easy and look forward to the weekend. So I thought that on Fridays I would take it easy on posting, too. Therefore, I’ll ask a simple question for you to answer. Nothing that requires a lengthy response.

If you’d like to participate, just post your own question on your blog and leave your link below. Don’t forget to visit the other participants! It’s a great way to make new bloggy friends!

the question is.... Do you trust all of your relatives to watch your children?

I personally do not. My parents watch my children when we are away. R's sister has watched them too from time to time. I do not trust R's parents to watch them. And at this point, R agrees with me which helps a bit.

Motivation

I am trying to find motivation today. My cousins are coming over tomorrow. They are down from NY and CT to visit my grandfather. While growing up I had little to nothing to do with them, and now have even less. I know that is sad, but it is very true. Growing up my brother and both cousins were cared about a lot more than me. My cousins thought they were better than me and to tell you the truth I could care less what they thought.

I know I should clean the house and get things ready for the visit, but I just don't feel like it. I don't feel like I care enough to do anything. I wish they weren't coming over, but at the same time I'd rather them come her instead of me packing the boys into the car and driving out there to see them.

Do you ever find that you can't get motivated to get ready when you don't want to do something? Do you have family members who you just could careless if you saw again?

Sleep Overs

My kids have never slept anywhere but at home. (not counting family vacations when we all sleep in a hotel) On the off chance that my hubby or I are not home at bed time, my mom watches them at our house, puts them to bed, and waits for us to get home. On the even more rare chance that we are away over night, my mom watches them at our house so they can sleep in their own beds and she sleeps in our guest room. (Do you notice a trend here that my mom always watches the kids and not the MIL?? She never watches our kids for us- but that is another post for another time). So, my kids have never had a sleep over- they have never slept anywhere but home. My theory was that it was always easier for them to be in their familiar environment, in their familiar bed, etc - keep as much normal for them. I'm not against sleep overs, I just thought my kids were too little and would freak out or something. They are only 5 and 2. So my question is -- have your kids had sleep overs? I don't mean school kid fun sleep overs - but when you are not at home at night, what do you do with your kids? Someone come to your house or your kids go to someone else's house? What are your thoughts on the whole thing?