The BIL and g-friend were given a costume for my nephew(their son) to wear by a family member. I picked up that costume because Nephew was coming to spend the nite at my house. The costume reeked of smoke. I didn't have time to wash it, so I threw it in the dryer and Febreezed it. It kinda helped. I passed along to the G-friend and told her she might want to wash it.
The next day I find out, she did not wash it and "they" got him a new costume. (I was glad they at least did that. I would not want Nephew walking around in that) Later, the MIL called to tell me the same story. BUT she was the one who bought a new DISNEY brand costume for him. G-friend only went one place and determined the store was too crazy. That ended her search for a new costume.
Yet, again, my MIL steps up where they lacked and got him something. Yet, again, she goes out of her way for them. Never for us. Frankly, I am about sick of it. I am not sure how to deal with this. Constantly things are done for them, not for us. I am sorry...Do I have to pay for doing things right? Sacrificing things for myself so that my son has what he needs? Because they don't do that...so they get everything handed to them. And the Nephew gets more than my son.
I try to keep in mind that I am the Parent. This is what I do. In years to come, I can say I did stuff for my child. Things weren't done for us. We have the things we do because we did it ourselves. It just gets frustrating when it is constantly in my face what MIL does for them and not for us.
I am not sure it is even worth getting into a discussion about. Would it change anything? Probably not. It would probably change the family dynamics all around. I'm not sure if I am ready for that. So, for now I will bite my tongue...
